I was at a Barbeque over 4th of July weekend at a friend’s house. She has a pool in her backyard so we were all splashing around and having fun. My friend, Stef, came to the pool in a bikini. Stef is a plus size girl, like I am. She tore off her towel and told everyone, “This is my house, I will dress how I want to.” I remember looking at her all day not caring what everyone thought and thinking how envious I was of her self confidence to dress how she wanted.
What do people think of a plus size girl in a bikini? Why is it that a skinny girl can walk around wearing next to nothing but a plus girl has to cover up? Plus size men walk around with their shirts off, hairy and everything and that seems normal. Is it society? Is it a self esteem thing?
The week after the barbeque, I saw an add on the internet for a plus size bikini. It was only $14 so how could I go wrong.
I finally got up the nerve and wore it this weekend in my friend’s pool. I felt very exposed since my stomach has not seen the light of day since high school. There are no pictures of this adventure of mine, but I did it. You know what, who cares if I have more stomach to show. I am healthy and I love me. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. Ladies we need to feel confident whether we are tall, short, skinny, fat, muscular, or any mix of these. We need to stop these social stigmas. We are all beautiful and need to feel comfortable in our own skin. Maybe soon I will be comfortable enough to take pix in this bathing suit……baby steps. But I love my not so teeny weeny bikini.
August 3, 2015 at 4:23 pm
Good for you on going for it! I don’t even own a bathing suit, so I haven’t had one on in at least 10 years. I’m petite, but it’s a confidence thing. I need to get brave like you.
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August 3, 2015 at 5:41 pm
I love the water. I can’t imagine not having a suit at all. You are beautiful. Get a suit now, they are totally on sale, and get your butt in the water.
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August 3, 2015 at 4:34 pm
Oh the feeling of exposure… I know it and struggle with it a lot. Thank you for your post and a reminder that we should feel happy regardless of what other people may think, I think your bathing suit is beautiful!
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August 3, 2015 at 5:43 pm
Thank you. I think once my belly gets a little sun I will feel better. Tan fat looks better than bright white fat. Lol
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August 4, 2015 at 3:08 am
WAY TO GO! I am very self conscious and dread pool parties but I love that you are so confident that you rocked it!
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August 4, 2015 at 10:02 am
I am trying my hardest to gain more and more confidence. I was in a relationship/marriage that drained me of my self worth and I am now getting it back.
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August 4, 2015 at 7:46 am
I think it is awesome you went for it! I have never had an interest to wear a bikini, but I always find it a huge triumph when I wear a swim suit without shorts 🙂
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August 4, 2015 at 10:01 am
That is a triumph and keep up the good work.
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August 4, 2015 at 8:20 am
Great message and good on you for taking the plunge 🙂 Keep at it!
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August 4, 2015 at 10:01 am
The “plunge”…great choice of words…lol. ty
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August 4, 2015 at 11:12 am
I loved your post! I actually wrote about my bikini a while ago as well! Being a plus size woman doesn’t mean we can’t wear bikini’s, crop tops, horizontal stripes or anything. There are no limits to our choices and no barriers we can’t break! I loved your post and hope to read more and maybe connect with you!
xoxo
Alicia
http://www.lifeofafatgirl.ca
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August 4, 2015 at 12:53 pm
I would love to connect with you. I absolutely love the name of your blog. I read your post about the obstacle course and that you did it with a fresh tattoo. I wrote a post about tattoo care last week and obstacle course was no where in there. Lol
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August 4, 2015 at 6:54 pm
From what I could see, Stef looked fabulous in her bikini. I’m glad you went for it too… I’m so tired of the skinny girl vs fat girl social discourse. We are beautiful as we are.
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August 4, 2015 at 7:18 pm
I totally agree with you
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August 4, 2015 at 8:00 pm
Good on you doll! I’m still looking for my perfect 2 piece.
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August 6, 2015 at 12:17 am
Yay! It’s all about confidence! Good for you!
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August 6, 2015 at 8:44 am
Ty, I’m trying. Little by little
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